In our first lesson, I asked if there was anybody out there doing what she imagined she would like to do… a role model of sorts. Honestly, I expected her to say “Taylor Swift.” Instead, she took my iPad and pulled up a video of a girl group performing well-choreographed dancing while singing. The singers were boldly owning their femininity and their talents.  I thought, “Wow, ok… she knows who she is and how she wants to express it!”

The First Step

     Having a specific desire or vision is the first step – ALWAYS.  We need to decide what we want to grow in the garden of our life. Once we do that, we automatically begin to call in what we need to support us – the seeds, the sunlight, the rain. This girl has a clear vision, however, it doesn’t mean that reaching her goals is going to be easy.

     For this growth, there are skills she will need to learn, techniques she will need to develop, and obstacles she will need to overcome – mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

What Is Needed to Grow

• Shyness and stage-fright are common obstacles. Therefore I address these head on… but I do not harp on these issues. Confidence is a mindset that develops over time with a combination of practice and experience. It’s my job to help her recognize and build her courage through our work together.
• Shaky or inconsistent vocals are a factor. So she will need to learn singing techniques and to develop a practice strategy geared to her specific goals. That’s where vocal scales come in! Scales are hard work and can be embarrassing. They stretch us beyond our comfort zone just a little at a time, building core strength and expanding our ability.

     As a vocal empowerment coach, if I know a shortcut, I’ll share it! For growth, sometimes the only way up is through. What she can be sure of is that I will provide guidance and support that will make it possible for her to be proud of who she is as she steps forward into who she wants to be. In the end, her part is to take the rain and sunshine in embrace the lessons that life sends her way.

     My answer to her, “Skip the scales? That’s like skipping the lesson!” ♫

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In contrast, consider innovative free thinkers like Nicola Tesla and Steve Jobs – who see beyond the realms of what we accept as possible for us. Did you ever wish you could think like that?  Steve Jobs said, “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”  Evan Carmichael compiled Steve’s 10 rules for success in this inspiring video.

James Van Praagh, psychic medium said, “You will never be happy if you live someone else’s idea of life.”  Do you think that’s true?  Would you like to tap into your True Essence – that part of you where free thought lives?

Our lives are greatly enhanced when we let go of the filters that we screen our thoughts through and instead practice listening to our gut and feel our way through deciding what’s really true for us.  Filters can come from our country of origin, our parents, our religion, the media, our fears… And when we release those filters we can CREATE amazing lives – and art too!  Our life becomes a living art.  How do we release those limiting filters and tap into our True Essence?  Through awareness, practice, and through checking in with our emotions which are our internal guidance system.

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