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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Apr 2025 02:58:32 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Goddess archetypes for vocal empowerment are powerful tools to help you express your truth, access inner wisdom, and connect more deeply with your voice. In June, I’ll be assisting at a goddess retreat on Anna Maria Island, where I’ll also be leading a Vocal Yoga class for a small group of women coming together for [&#8230;]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p data-pm-slice="1 1 []"><strong>Goddess archetypes for vocal empowerment are powerful tools to help you express your truth, access inner wisdom, and connect more deeply with your voice.</strong> In June, I’ll be assisting at a goddess retreat on Anna Maria Island, where I’ll also be leading a Vocal Yoga class for a small group of women coming together for creativity, connection, and to manifest their dreams. The retreat is hosted by a dear friend and magical mentor, Sandra aka The Happy Goddess, who asked each of us—staff and attendees alike—to choose a goddess name to embody throughout our time together.</p>
<p>Sandra shared that her name, <a href="https://www.thehappygoddess.org/">&#8220;The Happy Goddess&#8221;</a>, came to her over 20 years ago, during a very difficult chapter in her life. At the time, all she wanted was to feel happy again—so she chose a name that called that desire into being. <strong>Sandra has been a radiant force in my life and in the lives of so many women.</strong> The name stuck, and over time, it blossomed into something powerful: a movement of empowerment, healing, and celebration that continues to ripple outward.</p>
<p>Her invitation to us? <strong>Let a name come to you. Don’t overthink it. Let it choose you as much as you choose it.</strong> Look into the goddesses of the world—see who resonates. Who awakens something in you?</p>
<p>As someone whose life and work centers around voice—singing, writing, speaking, teaching, coaching—I chose to explore goddesses that are connected to vocal empowerment. <strong>My voice has been my gift, my tool, and my teacher.</strong> I&#8217;ve spent years unraveling the messages and shedding the beliefs that once dimmed my voice. I’ve studied meditation, intuition, energy work, and emotional healing—all to strengthen my relationship with my inner voice and help others do the same.</p>
<p>So <strong>I created this curated list of goddess archetypes that align with what I value most: freedom of expression, healing through voice, and feminine strength.</strong></p>
<p>✨ <strong>Can you guess which one I chose to embody at the retreat?</strong></p>
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<h2>What Are Goddess Archetypes?</h2>
<p><strong>Your journey toward vocal empowerment, healing, and authentic self-expression</strong> can be beautifully supported by working with goddess archetypes from various traditions. Whether or not these figures actually once walked the earth, <strong>they exist as energetic blueprints—representing specific qualities and strengths you already carry within.</strong></p>
<p>As Sally Kempton writes in <em>Awakening Shakti</em>, <strong>goddess energies are more than myth—they’re real, dynamic forces that live within each of us.</strong> I love this because it reinforces the idea that instead of seeking something outside of us for help, we can go inward and remember that <strong>we already have what we need within. That’s true empowerment to me!</strong></p>
<p>Invoking these archetypes can help you access your inner wisdom and the true magic of your voice. 🕊</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>Dive deeper: <a href="https://www.alyssaom.com/aboutme/">Why I Teach Vocal Empowerment</a></strong></p></blockquote>
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<h2>🎶 Saraswati (Hindu Tradition)</h2>
<p><strong>Pronunciation:</strong> suh-RAH-swah-tee<br />
<strong>Goddess of:</strong> Voice, wisdom, speech, music, creativity</p>
<p>Saraswati is the goddess of the sacred voice and artistic expression. She’s often depicted holding a veena, a stringed instrument that symbolizes harmony between knowledge and creativity. Her calm, serene energy can bring clarity, inspiration, and divine connection.</p>
<h3>When to Call Upon Saraswati:</h3>
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>When seeking clarity and eloquence in your voice</li>
<li>Before starting a creative or musical project</li>
<li>To deepen wisdom and intuitive insight</li>
</ul>
<h3>Affirm:</h3>
<p>“My voice is clear, my words flow free.”<br />
Speak it or sing it aloud during warm-ups or journaling.</p>
<h3>Chant:</h3>
<p>“Om Aim Hrim Saraswatyai Namaha”<br />
(Pronounced: ohm ai-eem hreem suh-rah-swah-tyai nuh-muh-huh)</p>
<h3>Listen:</h3>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBS8sd0GvTY"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Saraswati by Rey&amp;Kjavik</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (very cool house/electronic music once the song kicks in) or </span><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DOPXmLc0fcs"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Saraswati (live) by Krisha Das</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (Kirtan chant music)</span></p>
<p><strong><i>Image Source:</i></strong><a href="https://www.metmuseum.org/art/collection/search/78265"> <i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Metropolitan Museum of Art</span></i></a></p>
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<h2>🌬 Sophia (Gnostic / Mystical Christianity)</h2>
<p><strong>Pronunciation:</strong> so-FEE-uh<br />
<strong>Goddess of:</strong> Wisdom, inner knowing, divine feminine intelligence</p>
<p>Sophia represents the divine wisdom within. She is the voice of the sacred feminine, guiding you back to your inner truth. Her energy supports deep reflection, mystical insight, and spiritual empowerment.</p>
<h3>When to Call Upon Sophia:</h3>
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>When exploring your intuition or inner guidance</li>
<li>During times of spiritual growth or seeking clarity</li>
<li>When trying to listen to your true voice</li>
</ul>
<h3>Affirm:</h3>
<p>“I listen. I know. I trust what I hear.”<br />
Whisper it softly. Then speak it firmly.</p>
<h3>Chant:</h3>
<p>“Sophia, goddess of wisdom and dream,<br />
Shine your light, shine your light,<br />
For a gypsy queen in a midnight dream.”</p>
<h3>Listen:</h3>
<p><a style="font-size: revert; font-family: 'Open Sans', Arial, sans-serif; font-weight: 500;" href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avpWlXM9X7s">Sophia by Laura Nyro</a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (this song rocks!) or </span><a style="font-size: revert; font-family: 'Open Sans', Arial, sans-serif; font-weight: 500;" href="https://youtu.be/MsSi6hDg3cA?si=3pSOxXLKIeY-BopN">Love of Sophia by Taos Winds Spirit</a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (meditative)</span></p>
<p><strong><i>Image Source:</i></strong> <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophia_%28wisdom%29?utm_source=chatgpt.com"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Wikipedia</span></i></a></p>
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<h2 data-pm-slice="1 1 []">🦅 Ixchel (Mayan Tradition)</h2>
<p><strong>Pronunciation:</strong> ee-SHELL<br />
<strong>Goddess of:</strong> Healing, creativity, moon, water, intuition</p>
<p>Ixchel is a powerful healer and creator, representing emotional depth, intuition, and the sacred cycles of transformation. As a moon goddess, she aligns with inner tides and the intuitive voice within.</p>
<h3>When to Call Upon Ixchel:</h3>
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>During emotional healing or personal transitions</li>
<li>When seeking creative flow or intuitive clarity</li>
<li>On vocal rest days, or before singing emotionally charged music</li>
</ul>
<h3>Affirm:</h3>
<p>“I feel. I heal. I flow with the moon.”</p>
<h3>Chant:</h3>
<p>“We are the flow. We are the ebb.<br />
We are the weavers. We are the web.”</p>
<h3>Listen:</h3>
<p><a href="https://youtu.be/OVsRQ-64SCg?si=-8KZGHE5QRHTfRJQ"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mayan goddess Ixchel</span></a></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Alternative: </span><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMGxIvDe9fU&amp;list=PLBOR6u4oqa67VZm5sS-fpGLlQh7z092TY"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mayan Traditional Music by R. Lozano ft. J. Ramos</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (incredible Aztec &amp; Mayan music to chant over!)</span></p>
<p><strong><i>Image Source:</i></strong><a href="https://americanindian.si.edu/collections-search/object/NMAI_410450"> <i><span style="font-weight: 400;">National Museum of the American Indian</span></i></a></p>
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<h2 data-pm-slice="1 1 []">🔥 Brigid (Celtic Tradition)</h2>
<p><strong>Pronunciation:</strong> BRIH-jid<br />
<strong>Goddess of:</strong> Poets, healing, inspiration, fire</p>
<p>Brigid is the flame of creativity and courage. She brings healing through expression—especially through music, storytelling, and poetry. Her sacred fire burns away fear and calls forth truth.</p>
<h3>When to Call Upon Brigid:</h3>
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>When you need creative courage or poetic inspiration</li>
<li>Before writing lyrics or sharing something vulnerable</li>
<li>When you need renewal or heart-fire</li>
</ul>
<h3>Affirm:</h3>
<p>“I speak with fire. I sing what’s true.”</p>
<h3>Chant:</h3>
<p>“Goddess Brigid, peace weaver, poet and queen,<br />
Melt the snow and bring the spring.<br />
We sing your name. We sing your name.<br />
Brigid, keeper of the flame.”</p>
<h3>Listen:</h3>
<p><a href="https://youtu.be/XxeTnU_qmhE?si=2AjGHOaq83MQRGS8"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Bridget&#8217;s Song</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (mesmerizing and easy to sing along!)</span></p>
<p><strong><i>Image Source:</i></strong> <a href="https://historycooperative.org/brigid-goddess/"><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">History Cooperative</span></i></a></p>
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<h2>🕊 Matangi (Tantric Hindu Tradition)</h2>
<p><strong>Pronunciation:</strong> MAH-tun-gee<br />
<strong>Goddess of:</strong> Inner voice, authenticity, mystical speech</p>
<p>Matangi rules over the power of truth-telling. She is the voice that doesn’t conform, the song that doesn’t apologize. Matangi empowers those who live outside the box and honors the sacred in the raw, real, and rebellious.</p>
<h3>When to Call Upon Matangi:</h3>
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>When you’re tired of censoring yourself</li>
<li>When working with shadow or reclaiming your power</li>
<li>Before a bold or emotional performance</li>
</ul>
<h3>Affirm:</h3>
<p>“My voice is real. I don’t hold back.”</p>
<h3>Chant:</h3>
<p>“Om Hreem Kleem Hum Matangi Phat Svaha”</p>
<h3>Listen:</h3>
<p><a href="https://open.spotify.com/album/0gPyHFGLC9x3y0Vdm2lFiq"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Matangi Devi Mantra by Shailendra Bharti</span></a> <span style="font-weight: 400;">(will totally transport you to India!)</span></p>
<p><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image Source:</span></i><a href="https://www.brooklynmuseum.org/opencollection/objects/111976"> <i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Brooklyn Museum</span></i></a></p>
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<h2 data-pm-slice="1 1 []">🐍 Meret (Egyptian Tradition)</h2>
<p><strong>Pronunciation:</strong> MEH-ret or MARE-et<br />
<strong>Goddess of:</strong> Singing, dance, joy, celebration</p>
<p>Meret reminds us that singing is sacred joy. Her energy is light, expressive, and embodied. She shows us that when we sing, we celebrate—and celebration is healing.</p>
<h3>When to Call Upon Meret:</h3>
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>When you want to reconnect to joy and spontaneity</li>
<li>Before performing something fun, light, or celebratory</li>
<li>When singing feels like play and prayer at once</li>
</ul>
<h3>Affirm:</h3>
<p>“I celebrate life with song from deep in my bones.”</p>
<h3>Chant:</h3>
<p>“Earth my body,<br />
Water my blood,<br />
Air my breath,<br />
And fire my spirit.”</p>
<h3>Listen:</h3>
<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ai3oVyJ8gck"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Meret &#8211; Egyptian Goddess of Rejoicing</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (Deborah Roth on Meret &#8211; Chant at the end of the video) or </span><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HodqLy7vv38"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Egyptian Traditional Folk Music by Mohamed el Sayed</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> (mind-blowingly beautiful, really gets going one minute in)</span></p>
<p><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Feel free to add claps or movement. Use this chant when you need to remember that singing is celebration, not just performance.</span></i></p>
<p><strong><i>Image Source:</i></strong><a href="https://www.brooklynmuseum.org/opencollection/objects/4259"> <i><span style="font-weight: 400;">Brooklyn Museum</span></i></a></p>
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<h6><span style="font-weight: 400;">Let these powerful goddess archetypes inspire and guide you on your sacred path to authentic and free self-expression. Call up their energies from within, and feel empowered and supported by your own beautiful and divine voice.</span></h6>
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		<title>Embracing the Lesson to Grow Your Voice</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 31 May 2024 11:11:26 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>     My vocal student asked me, “Can we skip singing scales today?” At 9 years old, she is one of my younger and more shy students. However, don&#8217;t let her age fool you into thinking her parents pushed her into taking lessons. This little being has a plan and a vision. She has a [&#8230;]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="p1">     My vocal student asked me, “Can we skip singing scales today?” At 9 years old, she is one of my younger and more shy students. However, don&#8217;t let her age fool you into thinking her parents pushed her into taking lessons. This little being has a plan and a vision. She has a deep desire to express her creativity through singing and performing. In fact, her vision is so specific that it really impressed me.</p>
<p class="p1">     In our first lesson, I asked if there was anybody out there doing what she imagined she would like to do&#8230; a role model of sorts. Honestly, I expected her to say &#8220;Taylor Swift.&#8221; Instead, she took my iPad and pulled up a video of a girl group performing well-choreographed dancing while singing. The singers were boldly owning their femininity and their talents.  I thought, &#8220;Wow, ok&#8230; she knows who she is and how she wants to express it!&#8221;</p>
<p class="p1"><strong>The First Step</strong></p>
<p class="p1">     Having a specific desire or vision is the first step &#8211; ALWAYS.  We need to decide what we want to grow in the garden of our life. Once we do that, we automatically begin to call in what we need to support us &#8211; the seeds, the sunlight, the rain. This girl has a clear vision, however, it doesn&#8217;t mean that reaching her goals is going to be easy.</p>
<p class="p1">     For this growth, there are skills she will need to learn, techniques she will need to develop, and obstacles she will need to overcome &#8211; mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.</p>
<p><strong>What Is Needed to Grow</strong></p>
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<li class="p1"><strong>Shyness and stage-fright are common obstacles.</strong> Therefore I address these head on&#8230; but I do not harp on these issues. Confidence is a mindset that develops over time with a combination of practice and experience. It&#8217;s my job to help her recognize and build her courage through our work together.</li>
<li class="p1"><strong>Shaky or inconsistent vocals are a factor.</strong> So she will need to learn singing techniques and to develop a practice strategy geared to her specific goals. That&#8217;s where vocal scales come in! Scales are hard work and can be embarrassing. They stretch us beyond our comfort zone just a little at a time, building core strength and expanding our ability.</li>
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<p class="p1">     As a vocal empowerment coach, if I know a shortcut, I’ll share it! For growth, sometimes the only way up is through. What she can be sure of is that I will provide guidance and support that will make it possible for her to be proud of who she is as she steps forward into who she wants to be. In the end, her part is to take the rain and sunshine in embrace the lessons that life sends her way.</p>
<p class="p1">     My answer to her, “Skip the scales? That’s like skipping the lesson!” ♫</p>
<p class="p1"><span class="_5afx"><span class="_58cl _5afz">#</span><span class="_58cm">embracethelesson #vocalempowerment</span></span></p>The post <a href="https://www.alyssaom.com/embrace-the-lesson/">Embracing the Lesson to Grow Your Voice</a> first appeared on <a href="https://www.alyssaom.com">Alyssa Martin</a>.]]></content:encoded>
					
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		<pubDate>Thu, 30 May 2024 11:11:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Avoid these word pitfalls and learn to speak and think in ways that boost your confidence! Get ready to own your vocal superpower! </p>
The post <a href="https://www.alyssaom.com/empoweryourvoice/">Avoiding These Watch-out Words: Guaranteed To Empower Your Voice</a> first appeared on <a href="https://www.alyssaom.com">Alyssa Martin</a>.]]></description>
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<p dir="ltr">Welcome to our Vocal Empowerment blog! Here, we&#8217;re all about the power of words and how they shape our mindset. Ever notice how certain words like &#8220;should&#8221; and &#8220;too&#8221; sneakily disempower us? Or how thinking in extremes like &#8220;always&#8221; and &#8220;never&#8221; can hold us back? Avoid these word pitfalls and learn to speak and think in ways that boost your confidence! Get ready to own your vocal superpower! 🎤💪 #VocalEmpowerment</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Word(s)</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Example</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Watch-out</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Consider</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Replacement</p>
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<p dir="ltr">too</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I’m too skinny.</p>
<p dir="ltr">You are too loud.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">labels place judgment or criticism</p>
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<p dir="ltr">consider everyone’s uniqueness, extend understanding</p>
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<p dir="ltr">My body is thin right now.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Do you think you could speak softer?</p>
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<p dir="ltr">should</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I should practice more.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">“should” feels like obligation or guilt</p>
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<p dir="ltr">“could” gives you the power of choice</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I could practice more.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">shouldn’t have</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I shouldn’t have done that.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">makes you wrong or bad</p>
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<td>
<p dir="ltr">decipher what you learned and focus forward</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I learned from the experience and I can do something different next time.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">you</p>
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<p dir="ltr">You get to a point where it’s frustrating.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">“you” projects outward onto others</p>
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<p dir="ltr">own your feelings and opinions by using I-statements</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I get to a point where I’m feeling frustrated.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">always / never / everybody</p>
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<p dir="ltr">You never want to go outside.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Everybody is so rude here.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">overgeneralizing uses little info to make big assumptions</p>
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<p dir="ltr">be specific</p>
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<p dir="ltr">When do you like to go outside?</p>
<p dir="ltr">When I said “hi” it seemed they ignored me.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">this is the worst</p>
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<p dir="ltr">This is a total failure.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">“black &amp; white” or “all-or-nothing thinking” can be perfectionism</p>
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<p dir="ltr">allow gray areas</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I see things that were well done, along with what could be improved.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">can’t</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I can’t do it.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">might be true… or is it that you “won’t”?</p>
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<p dir="ltr">decide what you can do</p>
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<p dir="ltr">It&#8217;s up to me to make it happen if I choose.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">it doesn’t count / Yes, but…</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I passed the test, but only because it was easy.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">disqualifying the positive undermines good attributes and experiences</p>
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<p dir="ltr">it’s safe to accept the good about you &amp; others</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I passed the test and I feel good about it.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">not accepting a compliment</p>
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<p dir="ltr">You’re my friend; you have to say that.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">devalues other people’s opinions</p>
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<p dir="ltr">receive the compliment as a gift and show gratitude</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Thank you. I’m taking that into my heart.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I’m sorry for being a burden / I’m fine / It’s fine</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I’m sorry for being a burden.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">manipulating others with guilt is an unhealthy pattern</p>
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<p dir="ltr">bravely and lovingly share your feelings if the other person is open to it</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I’m feeling bad that I need to ask for your help again.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">habit of apologizing</p>
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<p dir="ltr">I’m sorry, I’m sorry.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">taking excessive responsibility depletes confidence</p>
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<p dir="ltr">pause and reflect on whether apologizing is true to yourself</p>
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<p dir="ltr">(if yes) I’m sorry. Thank you for ___. How can I fix it?</p>
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<p dir="ltr">In addition to the above, it’s helpful if we can reframe our negative self-talk. Here are some examples:</p>
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<li dir="ltr">I’m too old. &gt;&gt; I’m going to keep learning more every day I’m alive.</li>
<li dir="ltr">I’m so stupid. &gt;&gt; I made an error and I will learn from it and improve.</li>
<li dir="ltr">I’m such a basket-case. &gt;&gt; I’m very in touch with my emotions.</li>
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